Answering Authentically

When studying public speaking—whether in a class, a Toastmasters group, or through private training—you will inevitably encounter a component known as "Table Topics." While it may go by different names, the concept remains the same: you take the stage, receive a topic, and must speak for 2 to 5 minutes. And... go! I excelled at delivering rehearsed speeches, but impromptu speaking often left me feeling flustered. However, it was my worst speech that ultimately dispelled my fear of addressing unknown topics.

The prompt was, "You are given a romantic trip for two to Paris. Who will you take and why?" At that time, I had just separated from my husband, and romance was far from my mind. I stumbled through my response, trying to provide an answer that I thought was expected, while my usually engaged audience began to yawn and check their watches. Later, I confided in a friend that if I were truly given that trip, I would likely cash in the other ticket and spend the extra time in Paris on my own, perhaps even having a romantic fling with a local artist. She asked, "Why didn’t you say that?" I realized I had been so focused on meeting perceived expectations that I never considered expressing, "This question doesn’t apply to me, and here’s why!"

This experience marked a significant turning point for me. I learned to let go of the fear of not knowing or being correct, and instead embraced the joy of authenticity. Ultimately, people are not concerned with whether you have all the answers; they will connect with you when you share your genuine struggles.